As I’ve been sharing recipes and writing blogs about my earlier days of parenting, my eldest daughter, my pride and joy and a jewel in my crown of parenting is preparing to leave for Denmark on a six month university exchange program! So, I’ve got plenty of advice for families with younger children, but now I find myself needing some advice on how to cope with my baby leaving the nest!
When your children are little, you have full control over them – you tuck them up into bed and know where they are and that they are safe; you know what they are eating, how long they are sleeping etc etc. That season of life as a parent is a precious one and I believe one that as parents, we want to be over far too quickly.
Naturally as they grow older and start making some of their own decisions, our level of control over them drops until eventually they are pretty much doing it all on their own. That’s all well and good – we can’t be tucking them in to their beds forever, but it’s an entirely different stage when your firstborn tells you she is not only moving out, but moving to a different country!!!
Yes, and you may console me by saying “it’s only for six months,” and I realize that this is true and the time will probably fly by, and we’ll be able to not only talk but also see each other on the modern wonder of Skype, but I have to admit as a mother that it just wont’ be the same as having her right here under my roof.
The real truth of the matter is that I am going to miss her – not just because she is my daughter, but because she is more of a friend to me now and such a pleasure to have around. If someone had of told me almost 21 years ago when I gave birth to her that I would have to take her to the airport this week and say goodbye to her for six months, I wouldn’t have been able to fathom it, so great were my protective instincts for her, and yet here I am, having to prepare to do that very thing.
Where have all the years gone? It’s astounding how quickly they have passed by. This is just another season of life I tell myself – she wasn’t going to stay at home with me forever, but it doesn’t make it any easier unfortunately. I find myself torn between hoping that she will change her mind and stay (not likely to happen as I’ve already checked with her), and wanting her to explore the world and follow her own dreams. It’s a position that I am not particularly comfortable with as it’s so foreign and new to me.
I am dreading the trip to the airport so much that I am finding that I just want it to be over and done with, but I also want to spend as much time as I can with her before she leaves. I have even found myself dreaming about the airport parting as she walks through those gates at customs with me chasing after her – “No, don’t go,” I cry!
As I enter this new season of my life, my prayer for her is that she will be safe, but also that she will experience many wonderful adventures while she is away. My prayer for myself is that I will get through the 6 months intact as I count down the days till she comes home!